From Daniel Davis...
I recently saw a trailer for an upcoming movie about this guy who has been
in a coma for 40 years and wakes to find a much different world than
before. In the scene the female pushing his wheel chair out of the
hospital makes a reference to Facebook. A confused look settled on the
man’s face and the newly awakened character asks, “What is Facebook?” With
a tone of passive aggressiveness, she responds, “a place for people to
find old High School romances they never slept with but wanted too.”
Sounds like a quality film. It’s sad, but we laugh at the woman’s joke
because there is a layer of truth to it. A major News Paper recently ran
an article stating that Facebook has become a leading factor in our
societies plague of adultery and infidelity. The character’s joke may be
funny, but what it says about the state of America is heartbreaking.
My story involves Facebook. I guess that’s why the scene stuck out to me
so. Bluntly, after a 28-year marriage, my mother left our family to pursue
an adulterous affair with a Man she reconnected with and Facebook was
involved. They dated in High School, but it was that invite to the High
School Reunion planning committee that finally got them in bed together.
It’s typical - wall posts turn into private messages. And then private
messages turn into late night one on one planning meetings. Discussion
turns from streamers and cake to the condition of their current marriages.
Then, within a matter of two months, they were proclaiming their love for
one another. I once asked my mom if she remembers the moment she should
have called my Dad and she chose to ignore what was right. She does; I
take some solace in that.
1. voluntary sexual activity (as sexual intercourse) between a married man
and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone
other than her husband
I get there’s nothing new about adultery, and many of you reading this
have lived a similar scenario in a variety of roles. To you, I now have
shared a glimpse of your pain. I could have never imagined its depth. To
those who’s clan is still in tact - Hold tightly. Celebrate together, and
be thankful for the gift of the family unit.
June 9, 2009 my mom moved out. We had been lied to for almost 5 months.
The “soul mate” my mom now claims she had found ironically needed to be
shrouded in a blanket of secrecy for months from those she had promised to
share her life with. A couple months later, her lover moved in with her.
His 3 kids and wife were crushed. I know this because I contacted one of
his daughters via Facebook. How do you start that conversation off? “So,
our parents are sleeping together.” His daughter lamented that her father
had tried to keep it a secret from them, but they knew. It was a good
talk. We had a common pain and a common frustration for the other’s
parent. My mom, and her dad were abandoning the most important commitment
they had ever made. Not only before men, but as self-professed Christians,
before their creator. – “Till death do us part.”
Currently, it has been almost a year since these two star crossed lovers
met. They still live together and are in the process of divorcing their
spouses to stay together.
1. a public officer authorized to hear and decide cases in a court of law;
a magistrate charged with the administration of justice.
3. a person qualified to pass a critical judgment
Ok, so you know the story, but here is why you need to know. This guy is
running for a position in our judicial system where you the citizen may be
subject to his ruling. My mom’s lover is on the cusp of a judgeship in
Collin County. He’s running for a position where he determines what is
right and wrong. He’s running to have the word “honorable” placed in front
of his name. He’s running for a position whose very essence requires
integrity and honesty at its core. And sadly, he’s winning.
At the Collin Country primaries, Lance Baxter was on the ballot for the
Republican Party nomination as a candidate for Collin County Judge of the
County Court at Law 3. The results came in and he had 36.83% lead with the
other two candidates trailing close behind. He is now in a runoff against
another candidate and the election will be held this April.
I’m not sure what your stance on adultery is, but I deeply hope we as a
society have a shred of dignity and can agree Lance Baxter’s illicit
behavior is not befitting of a Judge. Just because a former president had
an adulterous affair with an intern does not mean the standards for those
interpreting the constitution should be lowered. Living in a democratic
society encourages informed decisions when choosing those who will govern
you. This means damaging information about a person’s character has room
to come to light. It is unfortunate for Mr. Baxter this is the case, but
by elevating himself to a public position, it is necessary voters know his
In closing, I’m asking for two things.
1. Mr. Baxter, please respectfully pull yourself from this race and focus
on those things most important to your life.
2. To the reader of my words, I challenge you to make an informed decision
when electing your leaders. Consider Mr. Baxter's actions.
I want a Judge whose life shows he can place his feelings second to his
commitments. I want a Judge whose life shows he will choose what is right
even when it’s not easy. Simply put, I want a Judge who will respect his
P.S. My Mother's name is Jeannie Davis. Here is a picture of them.